I'm Back With a Dining Room Chair Makeover

Hello Everyone!

I'm bacckkkkk!!! I've missed blogging and I am so excited about getting back on the saddle. My family and I have spent the past few months preparing for our move into our dream home and it's been quite an adventure! Now that we are settled in  I am ready to get back to work my  home projects! Below is a pic of the dining room chairs we revamped. My hubby and I found an awesome deal on our dining table at a scratch and dent sale at Turner's Fine Furniture. Total savings on table $300. The dining room chairs were given to us and needed some TLC.

We reupholstered the chair seat pads and gave the chairs a makeover using Rust-Oleum Spray paint in Oil Rubbed Bronze and VIOLA!!! By revamping the chairs instead of buying new we saved $500. Total savings for this project...$800!!!

It's amazing what you can do simply by "Putting a Little Paint on It"!

I have so many more money saving projects coming soon so stay tuned!

Don't You Dare...Stop

As much as I love motivating others, there were days when I struggled to remain encouraged and motivated to go on. Recently, God sent me a life changing word from a COMPLETE stranger..who...(get this) wasn't even talking to me.

 

I wanted to share these God-sent words of wisdom with those of you who may be experiencing the same thing. Please click on the video below and what ever you do...DON"T YOU DARE.... STOP!!! 

 

 

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What I do in a nutshell....

Motivating the Motivator

If you are like me, you love what you do. Helping others reach their potential is perhaps one of the best feelings in the world. But lets be honest, it requires a lot of work and can be tiresome at times. Pastors spend countless hours studying the word of God for their congregations; Teachers constantly search for educational and creative ways to captivate the ears of their students; Employers work hard to keep their staff motivated and productive; and Mentors/Life Coaches are forever researching the best options and path plans for their clients. Each one of these professions require the person called to operate in them to give unselfishly and relentlessly.

But who's there to motivate the motivator?

Who's there to encourage you when you are out of ideas or simply tired of thinking? Support can be hard to find when the majority of the people you know depend on you. Most "motivators" feel guilty for getting tired and wanting to "get away from it all".

From one motivator to another, I wanted to tell you; it's okay to feel that way. My husband and I have been blessed with the distinct pleasure of serving under some of the most notable Pastors, we've been taught by the best of Teachers and we've worked for some of the best employers; all of whom poured mounds of love and wisdom into our lives. In our nearly 18 years of marriage, Travis and I have taken those nuggets of wisdom and applied them to our daily principles of living. Today, I wanted to share four of those nuggets with you...

It's okay to say "No".
Once people realize the value of your gifts and talents, requests will come in left and right. Some will try to extort your abilities but for the most part, there will be a genuine need for your help. It's important to remember this "You can't fix everyone's problems." Use wisdom when handling requests and don't over extend yourself. Overloading will only cheapen the quality of your work. I've found it easier to say no by also referring them to another business or agency who might be available to help. Don't let the fear of someone else stealing a member, employee or potential client keep you from partnering with others. No one person can do it alone. Besides what God has for YOU is for YOU, no one can take that away.

It's okay to take a time of rest.
I know this might sound a bit redundant but even God rested on the 7th day when creating the world and we are no stronger than he. The human body needs rest and the mind needs refreshing. This can be hard to do when your mind runs even while you are sleep...or attempting to sleep that is. Setting realistic goals and daily to do lists, will help you rest easier. Remember, you can't save a drowning person if you are too weak to swim. You perform better when you feel better. You've been given vacation time. Use it!

 Just because you are leader doesn't mean you stop learning.
Continue to study your respective crafts. Take a class, register for a conference, find a mentor or hire a life coach. Times and technology are constantly changing, the life span of your career depends heavily on your ability to remain educated on the "here and now". Also, you need an outlet. Find a mentor or life coach who specializes in your profession but has no immediate ties to where you work; this ensures you will receive unbiased advice in times of uncertainty.

And last but certainly not least, when all else fails, remember Galatians 6:9.
And let us not be weary in well doing; for in due season we shall reap if we faint not. God sees you and he knows your heart. Keep making a difference in the lives of others and you will be blessed abundantly.

Stay Motivated Motivators!

Low Grade Black People

That's it! That's it! That's it! I can't take this anymore!

My vision is to motivate and inspire people from all walks of life but as an African American woman I'm frustrated. I'm disappointed in the continuing growth of sitcom and reality shows that illuminate low grade examples of black people.

 I get it.....The primary purpose for television is to entertain..But where do we draw the line people? When do we say "Okay. Enough is enough! I'm not going to make a fool out of myself any longer for a dime and two coins." Real Housewives of Atlanta, Love and Hip Hop, Being Mary Jane, Scandal, The Tankards, Preacher's Daughters, Blood Sweat and Heels....all these shows; while entertaining to most, are epic fails in one important area...POSITIVE INFLUENCE.

None of them feature representations of strong hardworking black families who have morals and a high standard of living. These shows continue to cheapen our worth by portraying cheating, lying, manipulative and seductive characters.


There was a time when black characters where seen to be nothing more dancing fools with painted black faces and wide white lips. Although these characters appeared to be doors of opportunity back then, today they are deemed as offensive.

Society has become oblivious to the opportunistic painted faces now camouflaged behind the red pouty lips, Louis Vuitton heels and Giorgio Armani suits.

Green eyed logic says" It's only TV." However, reality clearly reveals the media's agenda to govern our way of living. Television influences how we dress, what we eat, how we talk, think and act.




And to make matters worst, the same celebrities you see fighting, cursing and throwing shade at each other through blogs and twitter are also the ones who are going into our schools, Boys and Girls clubs and even some churches to speak with our children.

On the other hand, you have to give them credit. After producing shows, music and movies loaded with cheating sex, drugs and lies at least they are committed to educating our children on the importance of remaining safe and responsible by making TV commercials that encourages you to know your status by marketing and selling HIV tests conveniently now available for you to use in the privacy of your own home. YASSS, don't you just love the conflicted messages they are sending??? "Go out and sleep with everyone you know. Just be sure to regularly take your STD test. You never know when your actions will catch up with ya!" (Yes, I'm being sarcastic)

And let us not forget their lukewarm "ligion". After providing us with all of those wonderful examples of adultery, fornication, lies and greed, they are always sure to thank God at the awards show for granting them the favor they needed to promote a sin filled lifestyle that will eventually send us all straight to Hell. #ChileBye!

I am raising my children to be Strong Positive Christian pillars in the community as well as in this world. I'm teaching them to never compromise their integrity or God's word.

Everything that glitters is definitely not gold. Especially if you have to make a fool out of yourself to get it.

No matter what color you are; it's not okay for our sisters to call each other the B word. It's s not okay for our brothers to "bust a sag" and demean women. It's not okay for adults to physically fight over "he said she said". It's wrong. It's classless and it poisons the minds of those who turn to TV for guidance because they don't have proper role models.

 As a child of God, I choose to promote his Kingdom. As a writer, I choose to pen life and as a Life Coach, my brand of choice is the Morally Empowered Lifestyle. I choose to stand out from what the media claims to be the new normal. It's time to Upgrade!

What's your choice?

 

As always, I'm not judging....I'm Standing!

2014 Proclamation!

After a much needed hiatus, I am back!!! I feel refreshed and ready to start the new year!!! Here is my proclamation, what's yours?

Best Man Holiday: Movie Review

After hearing so many rave reviews from my Facebook friends and family, I was very excited today when the hubby and I finally got the chance to steal away to go see the movie Best Man Holiday. I promise not to include any spoilers. I find myself conflicted while writing this review. The movie’s core message was unexpectedly heartwarming but the actual execution of the entire movie itself has me on edge as a Christian.

While the movie comes complete with adulterated yet comedic drama, I have to give props to the movie’s writer and director Malcolm D. Lee for not going overboard like Tyler Perry did with his melodramatic soap opera movies “Why Did I Get Married” and “Why Did I Get Married Too”.

HOWEVER, I would be remised if I didn’t say how disappointed I am in my fellow “brothers and sisters in Christ” who positively cosigned on this movie (Amos 3:3). Yes, I fought emotion during certain scenes but as a child of God and the wife of a newly ordained Pastor I cannot, in good conscience, recommend this movie for anyone to go and see. My emotions were touched but my spirit was grieved. While the life lesson in the movie is one that will probably make the majority of us all stop, think and reflect, the constant use of God’s name in vain (Exodus 20:7), vulgar profanity (especially the F bombs) (James 3:10) and the sexual references (I John 2:16) (which includes oral and anal sex) are way too explicit for any Christian too ignore. For those of you who watched the original Best Man, you know the character Lance, played by Morris Chestnut, to be the cursing-christian pro athlete who is preparing to marry his love Mia. In the Best Man Holiday, Lance is still the same cursing-christian. As long as we as a body of Christ continues to accept Hollywood’s persona of what true Christian living is all about, these examples will continue to be exhibited in the movies. Unfortunately, we have become desensitized to the enemy’s plot (John 10:10) to contaminate the minds of the people by presenting a false sense of holiness through the movie screen (Matthew 7:15). By saying nothing, we are telling the unbeliever they don’t have to totally surrender their lives to Christ. We are saying “It’s okay to be the Lance Christian”. (Galatians 1:10)

This movie would have been just as enjoyable without the vulgar language and sexual liaisons: the extremely talented cast and heart touching core message alone was enough to make this a FAMILY movie that could have broken records at the box office.

The Best Man Holiday was a pretty good movie but it could have been even better if it was kept clean and family friendly. It would be nice to see standards established in Hollywood and resumed in Christianity. And before you go there, I’m not judging. I’m standing. Matthew 16:18

Make Your Mark

Disclaimer: As I Christian, I have to start off by saying I normally try to avoid using secular artists as examples to this degree in my  blog posts.  I am not a follower of Jennifer Hudson. And while I would prefer she use her gifts and talents for the building of God's Kingdom, Jennifer's extraordinary talents simply cannot be denied... 

 

Jennifer Hudson was a Season three contestant on American Idol who to everyone's surprise was voted off during the Top 7 show. Jennifer DID NOT WIN American Idol but that did not stop her from making her MARK. Today Jennifer Hudson is known her captivating wind pipes and phenomenal acting skills. She made her film debut in Dreamgirls (2006), which won her an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress, a Golden Globe Award, a BAFTA Award, an NAACP Image Award and a Screen Actors Guild Award. She has overcome tragedy with triumph after the murders of her mother, brother and nephew. She continues to make her MARK in a world that tried to place limitations on what they considered to be a plus sized cruise line entertaining black girl from Chicago. She defied the odds and she didn't do it by an initial win. She did it by making her MARK!

In everything you do, give it your all! If one door closes, be on the look out for that window of opportunity. Continue to work at perfecting your craft and becoming the million dollar market you were destined to be. 

 

 

Jesus Time:

Imagine what you can do by adding God to mix. We are all given gifts and talents without repentance. What we choose to with them is up to us. Whether it's pleasing in the eyes of God is up to him. I've learned TEAMWORK MAKES THE DREAMWORK! Either way, I choose to make my MARK with God by my side. Mark 8:36 says For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?Do not become distracted at what's to the left or the right of you. God has your back and sides as well. A true runner stays focused on what's ahead and that's making his/her MARK!

 

Inspirational Quote:

Their No is God's Not Yet!

 

ON YOUR MARK...GET SET....GO>>>>>>>

God, Is it Me?

There are those of you who were born with the spirit of excellence and a drive to succeed. You were blessed with the mindset to dot every "I" and cross every "T". You have an eye for detail and the uncanny ability to solve the unsolvable. You say what you mean and you mean what you say. When it comes to Kingdom Business, all brakes are off. You love with the love of God and you give relentlessly. Pleasing God is your ultimate goal. People love you for your gifts still they despise you for your gifts. Your high standard intimidates them. Your days are sometimes lonely. You spend a lot of time encouraging others but who is there to encourage the encourager. After a while, the cold friendless silence begins to consume you and you begin to wonder...."God, is it me?"


I've asked myself this question many times. I was raised to live strong and according to the word of God. But after a while, I found myself extremely weary of not having close friends who were totally sold out for Christ. I wanted friends that would come over for dinner. I missed game night friends. I wanted a best friend again. I was tired of shopping alone or going for mani/pedis alone. So I thought about lowering my standard so that I could fill that void in my life. Of course being the analytical thinker that I am, I had to also consider the outcome of my decision. Lowering my standard would mean abandoning some if not all of the Christian principles on which I was raised and now live. It would mean paying less attention to the care of my husband, my children and our home. It would mean not giving 110% in ministry and my business. It would mean being less trustworthy....I couldn't become that person and so I chose to hold onto my standard.

Still, I wanted to make sure..so I asked God again..."God, is it me?" This time he quickly replied, "No daughter, it's the me in you. Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10. It's not that you have been running people away . You've been trying to befriend the wrong people. I'm taking you to another level in life. It's time you surround yourself with people with the same mindset."

I never realized that with questioning myself, I was questioning the God in me. I thank God for the gifts he's placed in me and I aim to use them to the best of my ability. Yes, some days will be lonely but if you look deep inside you will find comfort in the God in you. Be the best you God made you to be!!!

ReVamp Your Work Space

I am loving my new workspace. With help from my two best men, a little creativity and only $50 I was able to turn a cramped workspace into a inspiring oasis. Click below to watch the video......(hey that rhymes LOL)

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An Interview with Tamela Mann

In 2009, I was blessed with the opportunity to do a phone interview with Mrs. Tamela Mann. Last week I was once again blessed to speak with her via about her latest album Best Days Deluxe, Upcoming Projects, Family, Marriage, Ministry and how she and David manages it all! You may read the interview below or watch the video recording of the phone convo YouTube by clicking the link below.

 

BMackWrites:                    Thank you so much for honoring my request for an interview today.

Tamela Mann:                   Oh well your welcome.

BMackWrites:                    I’m not gonna hold you long today. I wanted to talk to you because I have doing some blogs lately that inspire younger women…well women of all ages who are trying to balance home life and career.

Tamela Mann:                   Uh huh

BMackWrites:                   And um I have to say when I do a lot of my blogging, I am really tough on celebrities and Gospel celebrities because because it seems like so many of them are getting away from the standard but when it comes to you and your husband, my husband and I really do have a huge admiration for the both of you all because of your humble spirits and your love for Christ, your love for ministry and your family so we definitely wanted to get your input.

Tamela Mann:                   Okay

BMackWrites:                    And ask you some questions on that. What of the things I wanted to talk to you about is career. God has really blessed your career and ministry. How have you been able to find a balance between career and family?

Tamela Mann:                   …and that’s not what it’s about for us. It’s about the Lord and family first.

BMackWrites:                    Okay

Tamela Mann:                   And then everything else falls in place but once you do get to those things like the music and everything else is like you just take it one day at…for me it just one day at a time..

BMackWrites:                    Okay

Tamela:                                One day at a time and I concentrate on whatever is at hand. That's how I kind of handle it. Like if I know I gotta do a lot of studio time, I’m concentrating.  “Okay you know you’ve got to do a lot of studio time right now. Get your mind straight. Get your mind right. You know it’s going to be long days.” So that’s kind of how I myself deal with it. And when it comes to family, you know I’ve got to make time. You know when I come home like with my grandbabies..you know it’s like first and foremost. If I haven’t seen them in a couple of days, we’ve got to go do dinner. We’ve got to go do some kind of activity together as a family or something like that.

BMackWrites:                    Okay

Tamela Mann:                   But the music..God is really blessing us and it’s just…I’m in awe on what God is doing. How he’s doing it and…man you know..the scriptures tells us if our ways please him, he will give us the desires of our hearts and um God is doing just that. He is doing just that..

BMackWrites:                    Actually Kawambee D, one of my fans on Facebook submitted that question for you about balancing them both. And one of the key things you said is that when it’s time work, you go ahead and focus on work so you can get in, do what you’ve got to do and when you come home that’s the first thing (family). And I think that’s an error that I’ve know I’ve made several times before I’ll be working all day long and my kids will come home from school and I’m still trying to get that little last minute in there. My husband talks to me all the time about that “cut off time” and make sure I get in that family time.

Tamela Mann:                   That’s right. We all need it. You need to shut your brain down.

BMackWrites:                    Exactly

Tamela Mann:                   It’s just…David is like that. Sometimes I have to get on to him about the phone but me when I come home I just want to sit down. If it’s something I need to work on in the house..you know I don’t want to think about work and I don’t want to talk about it. (BMackWrites laughs…Tamela laughs)..because I don’t..when people see me…we are regular people. When you guys see us..I  look at it as I’m still human. I still have to go to the grocery store. I still have to go do me a Marshall’s stop. I mayhave to go to Wal-Mart. Not just at the big stores, I still go to whoever; you know even the Dollar Store if I need to go run in there and get something. You know it’s just that we are still common people. You know we may just know a few more people than you guys know but we are still people…a few more people may know us is what we say but we are all still them same.

BMackWrites:                    I think that is what attracts people to you all so much is because success has not gotten to your head..

Tamela Mann:                   Nooo, I don’t like for people to shop for me. I just don’t. And then when it comes to preparing stuff for my family, I feel like can’t nobody do it like me. You’re not going to fix it.. I can tell you but you are not going to fix it like me. Your heart is not going to be in it like..like mine. You know but I thank God for people coming and helping us you know when that time comes but I want do for my family because bottom line they are my family.

BMackWrites:                    One of the questions and my husband actually submitted this question. He wanted me to ask you all about upholding the standard in a world that’s filled with so much hypocrisy. Um, everbody that we see that’s doing things, that’s you know that’s proclaiming the faith and so forth, they are not really practicing what they preach and you can tell it eventually in the little sideline interviews but…

Tamela Mann:                   Bottom line..bottom line is Bridgett, the Lord is watching and he’s writing it down.

BMackWrites:                    Wow

Tamela Mann:                   That’s my accountability and that’s my standard that I want my ways to please him. I’m not trying to be deep. I’m not trying to be better that nobody. You know but I’m striving for perfection and I can do that with the Lord. I can’t do it on my own and I’m not trying to do it in my own light where it’s all about me. Again, if I am trying to please him all I know how. I look at it as I don’t have an earthly father so the Lord is my Father and I don’t want to let him down. So that’s my standard of trying to do right as best as I can as I know how. When I know that it’s going to hurt somebody, you don’t do it. I’m not saying that I don’t make mistakes because I do. Sometimes I may snap at my husband the wrong way if he asks me something or my kids or people that you but it’s not an everyday thing that I am just walking around chewing people out. But we make mistakes but bottom line is pleasing the Lord. Pleasing the Lord. What he has written down is most important; I am trying to do what lines up with what his word says and what his commandments say. I’m just trying to abide by those. That helps me to hold the standard. A lot of people don’t have standards now. Anything go. Everything go.

BMackWrites:                    Yes,  you are right.

Tamela Mann:                   They feel like “I’m in the dark. Don’t nobody see me. You know and I don’t have to…I’m grown.” That’s the word “I’m grown”. That don’t mean anything. You know we want people to see. We want the world to see there is a difference so that’s why we have to have a standard of righteousness. Free from sin. Yes we are in this world of sin but we can be in the world but not of it.

BMacWrites:                      Exactly! Oh my goodness!

Tamela Mann:                   It’s just according to where your faith is and where your beliefs are.Bottom line like you said standard. What you want to uphold? What you want to uphold?  What do you want your kids to see? Your nieces and your nephews? Because it’s not a lot of positive marriages out there. It’s not a lot for them to see. They see everything else. Everything else is okay to see on TV.

 

BMackWrites:                    Yeah

Tamela Mann:                  They don’t give us like positive home life you know and things like that. It’s like they fight against that but everything else is okay. You know, let’s make a show about this and that but all we can do what the little time we have is just live the life. Thank God for Social Cam. We just let people know that we are not boasting or anything but if we live right God will give us some things here on earth. You know we can be comfortable and not walk around talking about we are blinging and banging. You know (we are just saying) this is the goodness of the Lord. When you see me on Social Cam, you’d better believe you me I’m teary eyed and giving thanks to God for blessing me and my husband, me and my family because that’s what it’s all about…without him, I could do nothing. Oh…I’m just talking...Okay..Okay...

BMackWrites:                    No..you’re good. For one thing, I saw the thing with ducks yesterday. For one thing, I absolutely loved it. I couldn’t help but laugh when you threw that first duck because….(Bridgett and Tamela laughs)

(My camera didn’t record the rest of this clip so please watch the Mann’s Duck video on Social Cam…HILARIOUS!)

BMackWrites:                    I love the fact that you all are down to earth..down to home people. As a matter of fact, when are we going to hear more information about Hanging with the Manns? Do we know when..?

Tamela Mann:                   Well, it’s still like kind of in the air. We are still shopping in. But we are still working on a couple other things as well like our reality show “With the Manns” another sitcom that we shot is called "Mann and Wife" where me and David actually play husband and wife.

 

BMackWrites:                    Okay. Okay…And I am rooting for this because see I am tired of blogging about the fake Basketball Wives and all of them. We do need some positive people.

Tamela Mann:                   I need the Saints to be praying that the Lord allows it to go through so we can have some other positive stuff.

BMackWrites:                    Well we need it. I am rooting for you all on that because we do need to see positive marriages. As a matter of fact, a year ago…a couple of years ago,  I ran a job training program and the girls that were in the program…one of the things that they were saying ..they saw me and Travis interact with each other and they thought that we were so fake. They were like “Nobody is that happy Mrs. Bridgett.” And I was like you can be happy. You can have love that is real but you’ve got to learn how to put God first.

Tamela Mann:                   Yes

BMackWrites:                    For one thing, I said, yall have been dealing with all these men…If he doesn’t know how to love God. He ain’t gonna know how to love you. And so it’s just the world has put out so many negative..

Tamela Mann:                   False…negative

BMackWrites:                    …examples of what motherhood is, of what being a wife is about what a career is and it’s really tainting the minds of our younger women and older women and so I am really really rooting for you on that. I’ve got to touch base on your song “I Can Only Imagine”…oh my goodness..

Tamela Mann:                   (Laughs) Yes that’s my new single. I have "Best Days the Deluxe" that’s releasing on October 29^th. I want everybody to put it in their phones for Tuesday, October 29^th. Make sure yall go pick it up! I redid "Take Me to the King" live where I added I" Surrender All" on there and it goes into Only Imagine. And "I Can Only Imagine" kind of happened… I was singing “Take Me to the King” was in worship for the concert and I started singing “I Can Only Imagine” in the end and it just stuck and it was like we were just going from glory to glory in worship. It’s just like man….and when I went and redid the whole song, I was crying in the studio when I was doing this song. Yesterday I was listening to it. I mean I was just thanking God and I was just weeping. And in my mind I was thinking, what will I be doing? What will I do when I get in the presence of God? That’s what it’s all about; us making ready to see the King. Because that day is coming; we don’t when our day is coming but it is coming. We all need to be prepared. Just put it in our minds of what we’re going to do when we see our Savior. And um I’m telling I’m just so excited about it and I’m just praying that God will touch the hearts of people with this like "Take to Me King" that we are going higher and higher. That’s where we are going with this.

BMackWrites:                    Well let me tell you. Those two songs really blessed me because Take Me to the King. I had to have this in my private time. A couple of years ago, I lost my baby sister. Well I didn’t lose her I know where she went. She went to Heaven. I know where she went.

Tamela Mann:                   Yeah

BMackWrites:                    She died suddenly a couple of years ago. I’m the oldest of four children.

Tamela Mann:                   Uh huh

BMackWrites:                    It was one of those things where..because she died suddenly. She went to sleep and didn’t wake up. She was a wife and a mom. And I was…the whole grieving process totally drained me. This was one of those things that big sister couldn’t fix. I couldn’t make things better for her children, my parents and my family. It was your song "Take Me to the King" that blessed me because I didn’t have nothing else to bring because I was broken.

Tamela Mann:                   Yes

BMackWrites:                   I know "Take Me to the King" is one of those songs that you can’t listen to in the car because you’ll be at the light and folks will be blowing. (Tamela laughs) You’ll be done got on the mountain and but it really did bless me. And when I heard "I Can Only Imagine", I could imagine myself standing before God and I could imagine Toshia standing in the arms of God. It’s one of those songs really ministers. It takes you in the presence of God. It doesn’t…you don’t focus on just a good beat and you moving around and you don’t know what you are listening to but the words really minister to your spirit. That is an awesome awesome song so I am looking forward to October29th. Everybody need to get it. (to the camera) Yall hear that. Go get it..October 29^th!

Tamela Mann:                   Best Days Deluxe …Tamela Mann

BMackWrites:                    I am gonna ask you one last question. Now you and your husband recently your vow renewal earlier this year.

Tamela Mann:                   Yes, Twenty five years.

BMackWrites:                    Twenty five years! My husband and I have been married for seventeen years.

Tamela Mann:                   Amen! Yay! I love to hear that. I love to hear people still hanging in there and man we can make it. We’ve got some ups and downs but it’s work. Marriage is work.

BMackWrites:                    That’s what I wanted to touch on because my husband and I have befriended a lot of people . We’ve seen a lot of marriages demise and go their separate ways. There are going to  be down days. I’ve given people my advice on what do in those down days but in your words. In Mrs. Tamela’s words, what is your best advice for down days?

Tamela Mann:                   On down days look at yourself. Go look in the mirror to see. It’s  not about you changing somebody. You can’t change anybody. You have to change you. A lot times you have to examine yourself to make sure you are lining up; that you are doing everything that you know how to do what’s right. So start checking yourself to see “What is that I have to do to change Lord to start making my relationship better?” That’s our mistake [we say] “Well you need to do..” We are pointing the finger but in reality, it’s you that need to make the change. It’s  not always somebody else, a lot of times it’s our selves. You need to examine yourself and ask the Lord to help you see you. Learn from whatever those mistakes are because you are going to keep going through it until you pass the test.

BMackWrites:                    Exactly

Tamela Mann:                   Whatever that issue is, it’s gonna keep coming around. It may change up a little bit but it’s gonna keep coming until you pass the test. That’s my advice on that. Ask the Lord to help you and give you peace during the storm. Every argument doesn’t need a response. Sometimes you just have to hold your tongue to keep the peace. You may not be wrong. You may be wrong but then you may not be but sometime you just [need to] sit back and let everything cool down.

BMackWrites:                    Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. We look forward to buying your album Best Days

Tamela Mann:                   Thank you. I’ve have people to tell me that they’ve feel in love with the songs all over again. I also went back and redid "Now Behold the Lamb".

 

BMackWrites:                    No you didn’t.

Tamela Mann:                   (Laughs and says to someone in background. "She talking about No you didn’t”) Yes I did. So that’s on there as well. You are in for a great treat. So everybody make sure you go out and pick it up and I love you. Thank you for having me again today and we will talk you again soon.

BMackWrites:                    Okay. We love you all and you all have a blessed day.

Tamela Mann:                   Alright Thank you.

BMackWrites:                  Bye Bye

 

Tamela Mann:                 Bye Bye

Imitation Flattery

We've all heard the saying "Imitation is the biggest form of flattery"; to some degree it is, but it can also be the greatest form of irritation. When you are trying to make your mark in the world, the last thing you need is for someone to come along and seemingly try to steal your idea before you can even make a footprint in the sand.
 

  

The harsh reality is, there is nothing you can do about copy catters. They have always been around and will always be. There will always be a Dr. Pepper and a Mr. Pibb. The question is who would you prefer to be? An authentic original or a copy cat version. Mr. Pibb tastes good but still this beverage brand does not appeal on a "high end" level. It costs less to make and is even cheaper to buy, ergo..."You get what you pay for."

  

I understand there is nothing new under the sun (Ecclesiastes 1:9). And I know there will always be others who will be an inspiration to me. Still, I choose to be an authentic original of what God called me to be as a business woman. I choose to take what I already have along with what inspires me and strategically work to create a BMackWrites original.

  

I'll end with this advice...

• Always protect your work. Copyright and patent your creations.
• Be careful who you share your vision with.
• Don't be afraid to take risks in Faith.
• BE THE BEST YOU YOU CAN BE!!! 

B's Research to Review..

Click the links below to learn more about copyrights and patents.

US Copyright Office

United States Patent and Trademark Office  

Loving Me for Me

It feels good to finally be at a place in my life where I am happy being me. I was raised to be strong and confident in who I am as a child of God, wife, mom, business woman and friend. Still, this was a struggle for me because of the negativity around me. When I was confident, they called me cocky. When I stood up for what I believed in, they called me opinionated. When I was silent, they called me stuck up. When I second guessed myself , they called me weak.

I felt like I was in a lose lose situation. My life dreams were beginning to feel like nightmares. But then one day a light bulb went off and I heard the voice of God say "When it comes to giving gifts I make no mistakes. I gave you your gifts and talents now go use them with much confidence and faith in me."

And so here I am comfortable in my own skin. Loving what I see in the mirror. Writing with purpose and speaking with joy and authority. I understand that it's not me, it's the God in me and I can't second guess God.

I encourage you to love who you are in Christ. When you look at life through God's eyes, all you will see  is greatness!!!

Quick Minute Tip: Grocery Bag Storage Solution

 

Please click below to watch my Quick Minute tip on storage solutions for your grocery shopping bags. Enjoy!

 

 

 

The Hypocritical Parent?

As a parent, do you practice what you preach or do you live by the saying "Do as I say not as I do." Some parents take for granted the influence they have on their children. I am so blessed to have the parents that I have because they set the standard of practicing what they preached. They taught me the importance of living by example. Some of my fondest memories of my children growing up were when they went through the phase of mimicking everything Travis and I did. There were times when as I typed away at my computer my daughter would sit at her little Elmo desk making typing sounds with her little fingers. My oldest daughter loved (and she still does) playing dress up in my closet. When our son was two years old, he went for weeks without eyebrows because (without our knowing) he decided to shave just like his daddy. (It was nobody but God that kept him from cutting himself)

The reality is even though our children grow up and act as if they don't need us, they never stop watching us. How many times have you said "Now he/she is the splitting image of their mom/dad." Whether we be the best parents in the world or the worst, our children will eventually inherit part of who we are.

Generational curses are created or broken based on how we parent. If we set a Godly standard in our households, our children automatically become destined for greatness because they will then have principles to live by. You can't expect your children to live a life pleasing to God if you allow worldly influences in your home. We say we want the best for our children. We say we want for them to go farther in life than we did but then we introduce them to obstacles that could hinder their growth.

It's important to establish Godly principles for your children to live by because outside influences will eventually arise. There will come a time in your child's life when curiosity will set in and they will want to experience new things. Pop culture for example, has one of the greatest influences on our youth. Celebrities and artists set trends for fashion, how to talk, how to act and even how to handle relationships. We as parents become fans of these celebrities despite the negative influences they have on our children. We justify supporting their work by saying "Well I don't agree with how they live. I just love their music." We become blinded to the fact that while we are mature enough not to mimick what we see our impressionable children are drawn to it. These artists are about making the dollar first and being a good influence whenever their PR agents deems it necessary. Still we allow these same people into our homes via music videos, Ipods and YouTube.

Why do we tell our children not to be a certain way but we constantly watch that "certain way"? If what a person is doing disobeys the word of God, why do we allow it into our homes? Proverbs 17:4 says " A wicked doer giveth heed to false lips and a liar to a naughty tongue". This scripture took me by surprise. I didn't realize that for every time I entertained vanity and profanity, God considered me to be a wicked liar as well (and we wonder why our children lie and rebel).

With all of the tragedies and havoc going on in the world, my husband and I have chosen to add more caution to our parenting.  Our children know to only accept the best;role models have to come with the whole package. Anyone who's willing to compromise their dignity, expose their body, use foul language and most importantly not live for Christ for the sake of fame and fortune, does not meet the criteria. It's all about the standard. Travis and I may not be perfect parents but we refuse to be hypocritical ones.

Raise Your Standard

Even though their motto says "Have it Your Way", you wouldn't walk into Burger King and order a Big Mac out of respect for the business and their standards.....Ladies, a man who respects what you stand for would never ask you to move in with him...He would ask you to marry him. What standard are you projecting to those around you? Check out my latest video blog...

How Not To Go Off On Your Child's Teacher

Click below to watch my latest vlog/testimony on How Not to Go Off on Your Child's Teacher. Based on a recent experience, I choose to keep it real in this video about my emotions and how through prayer I was able keep a cool head in a semi-heated situation. As children of God, our flesh will be tested on the daily basis. It's important to remember, a TESTimony is born ONLY after we pass the TEST and YES I passed the test!

Three Items That Will Keep Your School Year Organized

 

Click below to watch the video on how these items are helping to keep our school year organized and insanity free!!!  

 

 

 

Sweet Tomato Poppers & The Butler Movie Review

Hello Everyone! Please click below to watch my latest video blog "Cooking and Convo  where I show you how to make Spinach Chicken with Sweet Tomato Poppers while giving a movie review on The Butler. Enjoy!