My Parent's Bed...

I'm 39 years old and I still remember the warmth from my parent's bed. I can't tell you how many times my mom and dad would run us out of their room at night when we were little. No matter how many covers I had on my own bed, I could never seem to find the same warm spot like my parents had. Their bed felt softer and cozier. I didn't have nightmares in their bed even when they weren't in the room, I felt safe and protected.

Here I am decades later, and I find myself running my own kids out of our room. I've even tried to hit below the belt by saying to my children "Do you know what your dad and I do in this bed?" to which they reply "We don't care." Just today, my son jumped in our bed, wrapped himself under the covers and said "Mom, what is it about your bed." I looked him and I smiled but I didn't run him out like I usually do because today I remembered.

I'm pretty sure some of you can relate to where I am coming from. When I was younger, I wondered if my love for my parent's bed was because they had better mattresses and sheets. Today I understand, that had nothing to do with it. I was simply feeling the warmth from their love.

603PM

Please Read or Watch My Blog Post 6:03 PM on February 4, 2011,

Even in the middle of tragedy, I am amazed at how the mind can remember the smallest detail.

For me it’s 6:03 pm on February 4, 2011…that’s what I remember.

I’ve blogged about my sister’s sudden passing several times before so you all know Latoshia died suddenly in her sleep sometime in the early morning on February 5, 2011. But as I stood in her yard and watched the coroner’s van take her body away, my mind went back to the last conversation we had. I was desperate. I couldn’t wrap my mind around what was happening so I grabbed my phone and I scrolled through my time time log until I reached 6:03 pm on February 4, 2011. That call was the beginning of the last time I would speak to my sister. She was telling me about her day and she was cracking jokes left and right. She had rolling. We laughed so much and I thank God for that sweet memory. But if I would have known, it would be our last conversation, I would have talked a little longer. I would have told her how much I loved her. I would have apologized for all the times I acted stupid. I wouldn’t have let her go to sleep.

So today I ask you, if you knew that a conversation at 6:03 pm with someone you loved would be your last, what you say? What would you do? How long would you talk with them? You see my sister’s death has taught me so much about life and the importance of cherishing every moment you have because I know now more than ever that tomorrow is not promised to you. We take so many things in life for granted. We take our spouses, our children, our families and friends for granted. I refuse to live life full of regrets…that’s why I hug and kiss on my husband and kids so much. That’s why I tell my family and friends how much I love them. That’s why I am so passionate about motivating and helping others; it’s because I know the breath taking pain behind losing a piece of you.

I encourage those of you who are reading this, to (if you haven’t) start making the most of every minute…every second you have with the people you love. It’s not about life being too short, it’s about time well spent. Right now you are blessed with a clock that continue to tick but for me and my sweet sister…I am left with the bitter-sweet time stamp from 6:03 pm on February 4, 2011.

Why You Haven't Lost The Weight

So it's Sweet 2016 and you've decided to lose weight and get into shape this year. If you are like me, losing weight was the same goal you made is 2014 and 2015. But hey...you can't let that get you down. Determination is the key. Right?

I've lost the weight before (30lbs to be exact) and was able to keep it off for five years. I felt good and I looked great but then life threw me a couple of curve balls. I developed a couple of tumors (noncancerous thank God) and had to have surgery. My recovery threw me off track with my workouts and so I gained ten pounds. After some time I got back on track but then yet another curve ball came when my sister died. I lost my motivation and didn't feel like doing anything. While I didn't  have a big appetite, I continued to gain the weight. I was plagued with migraines and it wasn't long before I became a recluse, tucked away under the covers of my grimly darkened bedroom. It took time and a lot of prayer before I came from "underneath my covers" and when I did I discovered I had gained all 30lbs back!

We were getting ready to go into year 2015 and I decided right then and there to lose the weight. I didn't like feeling sluggish. I didn't like the way my clothes fit. I didn't like my Michelin Tire Man neck! My defining moment and extra push of determination came when my momma called one Sunday morning while I was getting ready for church. I had to put her on speaker while I dressed. She was just chattering away (like mommas do) when she stopped and said "Bridgett, are you having trouble breathing." I was like "No, momma, I am trying to get into this girdle." Needless to say she was still laughing when we hung up the phone.

Here it is year 2016 and I am still fighting the battle of the bulge. It wasn't because I didn't try in 2015 but for some reason, I couldn't consistently lose the weight. So, I had a "Come to Jesus" meeting with myself and I realized the error of my ways. I had a vision but unlike the first time I lost the weight, I didn't have a plan. I didn't meal plan. I didn't set an exercise schedule and stick to it and I didn't study my body.

If you find yourself in the same flubber blubber boat as myself then here is why you probably haven't lost the weight.

1. Failure to Study Your Body
The first time I lost the weight was ten years ago. My body has changed. My metabolism isn't what it used to be. There is a method to the madness. It's important to pay to attention to the changes in your body so that you can develop a plan accordingly. If possible, I encourage you to speak to your primary health care physician so that they can do a complete physical and determine your body's strengths and deficiencies. This time around I found out my cholesterol was elevated so it wouldn't be ideal for me to do an Atkins style diet like I did before...(which meant I have to watch it with the cheese) Cheeesseee...but I like cheese!

2. Failure to Meal Plan

It's important to meal plan and shop wise. Eating healthy is more expensive. Humph...I'll never understand why it costs more to eat less fat! If you are are on a budget like me, a high grocery bill alone can be discouraging. Thank God I've discovered the power of the coupon! By planning my meals in advance, couponing and watching the grocery store ads, not only can my family and I eat healthier but we also can eat name brand! Go Bridgett! Go Bridgett!

3.Failure to Exercise

Eck...I'm no fan of exercising but it's necessary not only in weight loss but for our body's health. I don't have a lot of friends (can you hear the violins) so I don't have anyone to hold me accountable. (End violins) My hubby exercises with me but he's a distraction sometimes. I mean how am I suppose to concentrate with him in the background yelling "Shake it momma! Shake it!" Besides I have absolutely no rhythm and I get embarrassed. Someone suggested I try to find a fun way to exercise so I found a Christian Zumba video on Youtube and I like it! As for the accountability partner, I remembered the BMackWrites motto When Life Won't Give You Lemons, GROW YOUR OWN!" so I   decided to hold myself accountable.  

Besides I can deal with the hubby and his Steve Erkel antics. They keep me laughing and add to my enjoyment.These are only a few reasons why you probably haven't lost the weight. Hopefully, this blog posts leaves you feeling empowered so JUST DO IT. Even if you fail, get up and try again. You are worth the work it's going to take to become a healthier you! 

Taking the High Road

It's 2016 and I am so excited! Are you? Today I would like to share a testimony with you about an important life lesson I learned when I was only 14 years old about envy. I was so jealous of this girl. I even talked about her behind her back. You won't believe what she did in return...

Dealing With Grief During the Holidays

Your today was my yesterday so I stand as a living witness that God, through time, will heal all wounds. A word of encouragement for those of you who are dealing with grief during this Holiday Season. Please forward and share with anyone who could use a word of encouragement.

The Christmas Tree

I originally wrote this piece in 2004. I am blessed to say it was featured on the front page of the Americus Times Recorder. I've decided to update and share again. I hope it blesses you. 

Have you ever taken the time to REALLY look at your Christmas tree? You'd be amazed at the amount of history you’d find if you would take the time, sit and listen to the story your Christmas tree has to tell. Last week, a family friend, dropped by and immediately begin to compliment me on how beautiful our Christmas tree was. In my eyes our tree was pretty but there was much more room for improvement. My goals were to buy plusher garland and bigger ornaments with more bedazzle and shine. It wasn't until this visit that I was able to truly see the beauty in our tree, not because of the ornaments but because of the story it had to tell.

When Travis and I were first married, somebody gave us a puny “hand me down” tree with a missing leg stand. We had to balance it with an old encyclopedia. We didn't have much money, so for the first few years the only decorations we had were gold garland and a few red and gold ornaments. We decided to add a new ornament each Christmas year and it sort of became a tradition.

Now, here we are 19 years later and our tree has turned into our own little time capsule. We have personalized ornaments from our first few years of marriage, ornaments from each our children's first Christmas', ornaments we received as gifts from our jobs, new ornaments purchased from "After the Holidays" sales and of course ornaments lovingly made by our children each school year. Some have pictures and some are hand written. It's amazing because each ornament takes us back to the Christmas' before and is a reminder of God's blessings over the years. Christmas trees have no bearing on the true reason for the season but our tree has become a symbolic reminder of the blessings of God.

The amount of money in each of our bank accounts will be the determining factor in how most of us will shop for gifts this year. There are those of you who are already feeling discouraged about your inability to "buy the best" for your family and friends. I encourage you... before you allow this to bring you down, take the time to look at your Christmas tree. Look at the little handprints and glittered snowmen and be thankful for your children and grandchildren. Enjoy the lights and thank God for warmth and electricity. If you don't have a Christmas tree, inhale the aroma of cakes, pies, and stuffing and then send praises for having food to eat and if that is not enough, look in the mirror and thank God for life, health and strength. 

Christmas has never been about santa suits, presents or ugly Christmas sweater parties because Jesus is the Reason for the Season. If it had not been for his birth, we would not have a chance at the ultimate gift of eternal life. Jesus is the only tree of life that shines so brightly and without the adornment of holiday lights and decorations. Jesus is my Christmas Tree!!! Whether it's in your home and/or in your hearts, I encourage you to take a moment and really look at your Christmas tree. It's a wonderful way to count your blessings.

Merry Christmas!!!

What Does Your Profile Pic Say About Your Business?

What does your profile picture say about you and your business? We've been told for years we should never judge a book by it's cover but that's only true to a certain degree. The reality is, unattractive book covers result in "low to no"book sales. Presentation is the key! You only have one chance to make a first impression so why not make it a memorable one?

I love what I do and through God, I know I'm good at it; but one of my biggest mistakes was failing to professionally brand my image. I couldn't only talk the part, I had to look the part as well. How I presented myself as a business owner said a lot about the quality of my work.

People often become intimidated when the topic of marketing and image branding arises but it's not as complicated as one may think.

When it comes to your professional image, marketing your brand can begin with the simple step of taking Professional Head Shots for your website and social media profiles.

Your professional business photo will reinforce your image and help potential clients identify with your brand. It also helps in establishing trust and it gives potential clients a virtual introduction to the  character of your business.

So, I'll ask the question again. What does your profile picture say about your business? Do you need an upgrade?

I am pleased to announce BMackWrites can help. I am expanding my business services to include Professional Business Photography which will include profile Head Shots and Product Photographs. I am currently offering an introductory special so call and schedule your appointment today!

Make the investment. Your profits will thank you!

Reasons Why I Won't Accept Your Facebook Friend Request

First and Most Obvious.....

I understand Facebook can be a great place to network and meet new people but I'm a married woman who's very protective of her kids...unless your request is business or ministry related...I'm really not interested. 

Now if I already don't know you and now I can't see you, how I am supposed to know if you've ever appeared on America's Most Wanted or Cops? How am I supposed to know if you are REALLY YOU?!?!  If I can't see you I can't accept you.

Sooooo....I don't know you.....you have no profile pic and no Mutual friends. Now who am I suppose to call to investigate you?

Okay so you DO have a profile pic and mutual friends but when I click on your Facebook wall, its loaded with porn, profanity and spam. You must be crazy. What kind of person do you take me for? Ain't nobody got time for that.

Just because my Facebook friends accepted you doesn't mean I have to. My standards are different and I value my privacy.

So you've chosen not to use your birth name. And since I already don't know you who you are, you've just put me in the position of having to make a judgment call based on your profile name. Let's see....RoAdDawg HititandQuitit Jones....DELETE Request.

Oh PU-lease! Now you know!

How to Make Buttermilk Fried Chicken

I almost never fry chicken but I decided to treat my family while trying a new recipe. Click below to watch my cooking tutorial on how to make Buttermilk Fried Chicken. I think this is one of my quickest cooking tutorials because it's just that easy! It's as simple as ONE, TWO, THREE....ok FOUR..lol!

1. SEASON
2. SOAK
3. FLOUR
4. FRY

$20 Bedroom Wall Makeover

Check out my quick and simple $20 Bedroom Wall Makeover. It's amazing how you can do so much with so little! Be sure to watch my Youtube tutorial below.

Kitchen Makeover Part III

Check out Part III of our Kitchen Remodel. We will take a break  and save up for the next phase which will include installing backsplash, changing the cabinet knobs and adding more lighting.

Kitchen Makeover Part II

Here is the reveal from our granite installation and in this video blog we begin painting. We had a couple of uh ohs so please learn from our mistakes..Check out the video and let me know what you think! Part III coming up soon!

Kitchen Makeover Part One

I love blogging and creating how to videos because I love inspiring others. You don't have to have a lot of money in the bank to accomplish your dreams...All you have to have is faith, determination and a keen eye for finding great deals.I am so excited to be producing my mini vlog series on our Home Project Kitchen Makeover. Please enjoy part one and I encourage you to join me on this journey as I also share our bargain finds and product reviews.. 

My Consumer Review on the Samsung Washer and Dryer

Hi Everyone! Check out my Consumer Review on the Samsung Washer and Dryer Set. If you are thinking about buying a new set, YOU MUST WATCH THIS BEFORE YOU PURCHASE!

My consumer review in the Samsung Washer. YOU MUST WATCH THIS BEFORE YOU PURCHASE!!!!
Posted by BMackWrites on Monday, September 28, 2015

Where Did All This Weight Gain Come From?

It's a an eye opening experience to look in the mirror years after your initial weight loss success and you feel find yourself asking "Where did all this weight gain come from?"

I was so proud of myself by the end of year 2007. I had finally met my weight loss goal of 30lbs and I felt great!!! I loved the way my clothes fit me. My self esteem was at an all time high and my energy level was through the roof. I made up in my mind  I would never be heavy again. But here I am, eight years and nearly forty pounds in weight gain later. "So what happened?" You asked.

Honey, life happened...

In 2008, I started having trouble with fibroids and had no choice but to subdue to a partial hysterectomy. Not only was I nervous about the changes this surgery could cause to my body but I was worried about the possible weight gain as well. Nonetheless, the surgery was inevitable so I made up in my mind that I would keep eating right and exercising. No way was I going to allow all of my hard work go down the toilet!

By year 2010, I was doing pretty good with fighting the battle of the bulge. While I had suffered 15lbs of weight gain, my energy was still on high and I continued a healthy diet and exercise plan. Still I was determined to lose those pesky pounds. I would not be defeated!!!

And then February 2011 came and my world crashed when my youngest sister died suddenly. I don't think I ate one solid meal that first week after she passed. I lost five pounds in just four days...It took weeks for my appetite to come back and when it finally did, my daily exercise regime had nearly diminished. My motivation was gone. I just couldn't seem to get my mojo back. It seemed like my life was spiraling out of control. Latoshia's passing was only the beginning of many more tragedies to come and I just couldnt deal with it.

 I was plagued with migraines. Several trips to the doctor confirmed my headaches, weight gain and loss of motivation were a result of my grief and stress. My doctor told me that even though I didn't have much of an appetite, stress was part the blame for my weight gain. I was like "Really!?!? I'm not eating and still gaining weight. Where they do that at?"

So here I am, year 2015 and an additional 25lbs in weight gain later. I don't have much of an exercise regime anymore. My joints ache. I battle with bloating. I feel sluggish all of the time and I'm plagued with hot flashes which my doctor says aren't associated with early menopause. As a matter of fact, other than my need to lose weight, I've been given a clean bill of health. I have very fickle eating habits. Some days I'm ravished with hunger and other days I could care less if I eat.

So now I know what I have to do. I must reclaim me! Its time for the old Bridgett to come back. While I love my body, I don't like the way its making me feel right now and I know that it's all my fault. Its up to me to give it the much needed tune up it deserves.

The start of my Reclamation Journey begins.... Will you join me?

What Every Woman Wishes Her Man Would Remember

Last week, I posted a blog for women entitled "Ten Things Your Man Wishes You Would Stop Doing". Men, now it's your turn. I could blog all day long about the many things women say they wish their man would stop doing. Instead, I decided to blog on the one "relationship sore" many couples face....A Woman's Emotions.


Women are emotional beings by nature. I believe God made us this way for two reasons: First, because our sensitivity is key to our ability to nurture. Two, because he needed a source that would eventually bring difference between man and woman. I believe our emotions are what God was talking about when he said in Genesis 3:15,"And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel."

One of the most attractive things about a man is his ability to attentively listen to and understand a woman's feelings. Most women are expressive. We love to voice our thoughts, feelings and emotions. When something is bothering us, it's difficult for us to hold it in. Even when we say nothing is wrong you'd best believe our eyes, tone of voice and body language will let you know otherwise. 

Men, it's never a good idea to say to your woman" 

I get tired of hearing about your feelings. 

You are letting that lil thing get to you?

Why are you always so emotional? 

It ain't that bad.

I'm tired of talking.

Now, while I understand that we women can get OVERLY emotional at times and need to learn balance; downplaying your lady's feelings is NOT going to make the situation better. Remember back in the day, when you were all suave with your words; even when you really didn't understand where in the heck she was coming from? Remember when you truly wanted to understand? Remember when you would do something fun or silly just to take her mind off of things? Remember when you would just listen until she got it all out? Or better yet, remember when she would say "Babe, it doesn't make me feel good when you say or do "such and such" to me and you actually stopped?" That is what initially attracted her to you. That is part of what helped her to decide that she wanted to pursue a relationship with you. Changing up the game now that you have said I do is not fair and a total breach of contract.

 

I understand. Times change. People change. And yes, there should be some compromise on BOTH ends but for the most part, going from tenderly listening to her to constantly belittling how she feels isn't fair either. The only thing it does is pushes her farther away from you. It's hard for  women to feel close to our men when we are forced to bottle us our emotions. How can we let you in when we are carrying so much inside? We simply are not built that way. If you have noticed a difference in your woman...if she has all of a sudden went silent..back track to when her change first started. I can almost guarantee you it started when you first began fanning away at her feelings.

It's a good thing when we are talking, it's when we stop talking that you should worry. Our silence says the process of an emotional detachment has begun...soon everything else will follow. We are not asking for a million dollars. We are not asking for a vacation to Hawaii every other week. We are simply asking that you listen and at least attempt to understand. We are asking that you respect who we are as individuals. We ask that you remember, we are ladies. We are soft. We are delicate. When our words turn hard, most of time it's because we are responding to way we are being treated. If you want her to be a rose..then treat her like one. Give her special delicate care and then be patient with her. If this battlefield of emotions has been going on for quite some time, it might take a moment to weed out all of the thorns...but that was a seed that YOU planted. It's up to YOU to remove them. Show her the same strength in emotions you've been preaching to her about by being patience and a little lot more understanding. You can do and she'll love you all the more for it.